That Is What I Want
That Is What I Want
One of the things that makes weddings so wonderful is the fact that this is one time where you can say that this is what I want to almost everything and it is what will happen. Not quite rubbing a lamp and having a genie grant your wishes but as close as real life can get to it. It is your wedding and it should be as you and your future spouse dream it to be.
Your wedding is your moment to take control of your destiny. You are stepping forward and proclaiming to everyone that you do choose your fiance/e to be the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life. Why should anyone else be in control of what your wedding will be like when it is the doorway to your married life, right?
There are only three factors that should temper your choices. These are:
- Your budget
- The preferences of your fiance/e
- The availability of the materials you need for your wedding
The budget is the first item on the limiting factors because it cannot be escaped. The simple truth is that you can only spend what you have. This means not only cash but any line of credit you have. You cannot buy anything without money to pay for it. You can go ahead and order the most expensive dress, reserve the fanciest place and have the most expensive buffet meal set for your wedding but you’d better be prepared to put money down or the reservations will vanish. Worse, your wedding could indeed push through but you’ll be badly in debt.
It is far better to get the best you can, working within the budget you have. You might be surprised at how beautiful a wedding you can have without spending hundreds of thousands. Think of it as preparation for being married. You’ll find that the budget will be in effect from the moment you guys become Mr. and Mrs. Smith.
The second limiting factor is the preference of your future spouse. Man or woman, everyone has thought of what their wedding day will be like. Anyone who says otherwise is in need of some veritaserum. As kids we have all thought of one day having family of our own and that walk down the aisle or the moment you say “I do”. Naturally since it takes two to make a marriage, there are also two people to take into consideration when you plan your wedding and the other person is not your own mother or your future in-laws, just you and your future spouse.
The third limiting factor is the availability of the materials you need for your wedding. This includes anything that is needed from your wedding. This can be the venue for the ceremony, the venue for the reception, oysters for your appetizers, champagne from a particular vineyard and so on and so forth. The availability of these things is outside of your control. You will need to either work with what is available or adjust your plans to a timetable where these materials can now be had.